- CBT focus
- Attachment-informed
- Person-centred
About Robert
Robert Paynter NCPS offers practical, person-centred counselling grounded in cognitive and relational approaches. He focuses on everyday struggles such as anxiety, stress, relationship worries, addiction, low self-esteem and coping with life changes. Robert aims to make therapy straightforward and approachable, so people can start making small changes quickly.
Robert blends Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) with client-centred and attachment-informed ideas. Sessions usually aim to identify unhelpful thought patterns, build emotional awareness, and try new ways of relating to oneself and others. He listens closely and adapts his style to each person’s needs.
With ten years of experience and thousands of sessions behind him, Robert has worked with people from many backgrounds. He draws on wide life experience from travelling and working across different countries to relate to diverse cultural perspectives. He speaks English, Afrikaans and Portuguese.
His work includes addressing issues such as depression, anger, addictions, body image, chronic illness, caregiver stress, codependency, communication problems and endings such as divorce and separation. He also supports people with concerns linked to BDSM and alternative sexual cultures, attachment wounds and abandonment fears.
Robert uses straightforward tools and practical strategies so clients can practise skills between sessions. He emphasises empathy, respect and a down-to-earth manner. To begin, clients use the continue button on this profile and complete a short matching questionnaire before scheduling according to the therapist’s availability.
Robert blends Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) with client-centred and attachment-informed ideas. Sessions usually aim to identify unhelpful thought patterns, build emotional awareness, and try new ways of relating to oneself and others. He listens closely and adapts his style to each person’s needs.
With ten years of experience and thousands of sessions behind him, Robert has worked with people from many backgrounds. He draws on wide life experience from travelling and working across different countries to relate to diverse cultural perspectives. He speaks English, Afrikaans and Portuguese.
His work includes addressing issues such as depression, anger, addictions, body image, chronic illness, caregiver stress, codependency, communication problems and endings such as divorce and separation. He also supports people with concerns linked to BDSM and alternative sexual cultures, attachment wounds and abandonment fears.
Robert uses straightforward tools and practical strategies so clients can practise skills between sessions. He emphasises empathy, respect and a down-to-earth manner. To begin, clients use the continue button on this profile and complete a short matching questionnaire before scheduling according to the therapist’s availability.
How these approaches translate to online counselling
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice difficult thoughts and feelings without getting stuck in them. It focuses on values and small actions that move a person toward a life they care about. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) looks at the links between thoughts, feelings and behaviour and uses practical exercises to change unhelpful patterns. Attachment-Based Therapy pays attention to relationship patterns and early bonds to help people understand how they relate to others and to themselves.Choosing the right approach is part of the work. The counsellor will talk with each person about goals, history and preferences. Together they decide which ideas to try and review progress as they go. This keeps therapy collaborative and responsive to changing needs.
The biography does not list specific online session formats, so please confirm the current options before booking. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy week, reduce travel time and allow shorter check-ins when needed. It can also make it simpler to maintain continuity when living or working in different places. Registered or accredited professionals can adapt exercises, homework and conversation to work well in remote sessions so practical change can still happen.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
Also works with
Additional focus areas
AbandonmentAging and geriatric issuesAttachment issuesBDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureBody imageCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCodependencyCommunication problemsControl issuesDivorce and separationDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFirst responder issuesForgivenessGuilt and shameHIV / AIDSHoardingImmigration issuesImpulsivityInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesMoney and financial issuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPost-traumatic stressPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Self-loveSex addictionSexual assault and abuseSexual dysfunctionSexualitySmoking / vaping cessationSocial anxiety and phobiaWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyEye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)Jungian TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapySomatic TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapySystemic Therapy
Experience
10+ years
Credentials
See below
Languages
English, Afrikaans, Portuguese
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does this counsellor help with?
He supports people with anxiety, stress, depression, addictions, relationship issues and low self-esteem among other concerns such as body image and chronic illness.
How would therapy feel in session?
The approach is practical and person-centred, combining elements of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and attachment ideas to notice thoughts, feelings and patterns and try new ways of coping.
What experience does he bring?
He has ten years of counselling experience and thousands of sessions with clients from many backgrounds and cultures.
Where is the counsellor based and how is he registered?
He is based in the United Kingdom and holds NCPS as a listed credential.
Which languages are supported?
Sessions are offered in English, Afrikaans and Portuguese and international clients can be seen.
What session formats are offered?
Session formats are not specified in the biography; please confirm current session options before booking.
How are sessions paid for?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin working with this counsellor?
Select the continue button on this profile, complete a short matching questionnaire and schedule sessions according to the therapist’s availability.